AKITA REFLECTIONS
JUST A PET?
by
Barbara J. Andrews
We
tend to get so wrapped up in competition and breeding for the show ring that too
often, we forget what dogs mean to people. Sometimes we forget what they
once meant to us! We would rather not speak of the pets we produced,
somehow the fact that there were mere "pets" in a litter is shameful.
Let me remind you why we're supposed to be breeding dogs in the first place.
Many years ago my mother made her standard remark when she was sure that our
latest litter was all sold. "Oh dear, I wish we could have had one of
those lovely puppies." Well, she'd been saying that for years
and it always made me feel guilty even though I knew that she knew that I knew
that she really didn't mean it. But this time her usually impeccable
timing was a little bit off. I had kept back the pick bitch and at ten
weeks she was decidedly cow-hocked. I hoped it was just a growth phase but
when mom made her standard remark, I suddenly had the answer. We were
planning a trip to Florida so I told her that this time, I just happened to have
a very special puppy for her. She protested as I knew she would but I told
her we would bring the puppy with us and we'd see...
Let me explain about my mother and Roy. Mom was then a semi-invalid and my
stepfather was a total invalid. God forbid, "vegetable" would
better describe Roy. Packed away was a trunk full of reminders of his
heroic service to our country. Purple Heart, Distinguished Service Cross,
Silver Star, you name it, he had been awarded just about every honor. But
a daily reminder of his service as a paratrooper in the famed 82nd Airborne
Division of the "Big War" as he called it, was a steel plate, brain
damage, a shell of a body, and daily medication to control seizures.
The year before, they had lost their thirteen year old shepherd, Duke. We
had all dreaded the inevitable loss because Roy had begun to dangerously link
himself and his condition with the old dog. He called them "us two
old men", often remarking that with Duke's crippled hips and his own
shattered bones, they were just "two old cripples" and it was evident
that in some warped and pitiful way, Roy felt his own life to be tied to that of
his old friend. He was often overheard talking with the dog and remarks
like "yep old buddy, ain't neither of us no good to nobody no more"
were frightening to the family.
So, it was not unexpected that when Duke died, Roy went even deeper into a life
threatening depression. He no longer wanted to face life. He spent twenty
out of twenty-four hours lying in never-never land in the back bedroom.
His condition was rapidly deteriorating and there were days when he could not be
forced to the table to eat. When mom could get a neighbor or church member
in to help, he was brought into the living room, settled in his favorite chair
to watch the wrestling matches he had always loved. There he would dutifully
sit...and sleep or stare into space. For eleven months, Roy had not been
outside the confines of his home except for trips to the V.A. hospital.
The doctor’s concern for his physical condition was exceeded by worry over his
mental depression. Nothing seemed to help. His medication had been
increased to dangerous limits and still no improvement. Consoling had done
no good. It hurts now to remember those painful months but it's important
that you understand how bad it was for Roy - and for my mother trying to cope.
Key-Too. All thirteen weeks of her. Rambunctious, mischievous,
troublesome, klutzy, inquisitive, demanding of love and attention. Upon
our arrival Roy was assisted into the living room. Stimulated by our
visit, he was bright and talkative for about an hour and then his eyelids began
to droop and we noted the all-too-familiar vacant expression as he lost interest
in the conversation. Lunch was prepared and he fell asleep in the chair
midway through his meal. We let him doze while we unloaded the van - and
Key-Too.
The puppy raced excitedly into the strange house. She didn't notice the
old man dozing in the chair as she sniffed and snuffed and explored under the
sofa, in the corners, and down the hallway. When she had quieted down, mom
called softly to Roy.
The moment was all we had hoped for.
He opened his eyes and although I hate to be melodramatic, time proved that
indeed it really was mutual love and understanding at "first sight."
He extended a hand and she came to him, hesitant, ever so quietly, wondering and
confused in her puppy way about this lump of a human whose only movement was a
trembling hand extended to her. When he fondled her ears, she turned and
licked his hand and although Roy didn't suspect at the time, from that moment
on, she was his dog. He stared at her and she gazed quietly back at him.
Then he smiled and finally remembered we were present. Never taking his
eyes from puppy, he asked her name. We told him and he repeated it as best
he could in his drug slurred speech. Somehow it came out "Tay-Too"
and Tay-Too it always was.
We all resumed conversation, careful not to mention the dog or why we had
brought her. He soon tired and Bill helped him back to bed but before he
closed the bedroom door, Roy asked if the puppy could take a nap with him.
Mom shrugged her shoulders when I pointed out that Key-Too might not sleep and
there were all sorts of things she could destroy in the privacy of Roy's
bedroom. Bill softly closed the door on the two of them.
At supper, she shared his TV tray that he had asked to have in the living room
instead of in bed as was his custom. She stole the slipper off his foot
and laid her head on it, watching up at him. When mom took his tray away,
she wiggled around to the side of his chair where his arm dangled limply.
She licked his hand and he responded by tweaking her ears, and they both dozed
off.
None of us dared offer a comment even among ourselves. We left them in the
living room and retired to the porch.
Later that evening, she shared his bedtime snack, and when mom fussed about
crumbs in the living room and spoiling the puppy, he told her to just go back in
the kitchen and leave them alone. We smiled. Key-Too slept in his
room that night.
She woke everyone bright and early the next morning, anxious to go outside.
Nothing in his room had been touched but his slippers were under the bed where
she had cuddled up to them. Roy got up with her and mom said it was the
first time in nearly a year that he had gotten himself out of bed. He had
breakfast, took his medications but refused the portion of his pills designed to
send him to never-never land. Mom argued, he ignored her and instead asked
"Tay-Too" what she thought about being brushed. She watched him
intently, cocking her head, seeming to hang on his every word. I had never
seen this usually rambunctious puppy so quiet and attentive. He asked her
again and she scooted closer to him. I asked mom if she had a brush and
then laughed when she came back with the only thing she could fine - her own
hairbrush. Mom chattered and fussed about dog hair in the house as Roy
ignored her and clumsily brushed the puppy. Amazingly she sat perfectly
still for all of two minutes or so before she grabbed the brush and ran with it!
He laughed at her antics and we exchanged glances, knowing he hadn't laughed
like that in months.
The next day we packed to leave and although Roy was in his chair, he was very
quiet. As we carried our suitcases out, he called "Tay-Too" over
to say what he thought was goodbye. We stood quietly by the door, not
quite sure how to broach the subject of leaving her with them. We couldn't
hear what he said to her as she sat looking up at him but when she eased up into
his lap and licked his cheek, we saw his hands tremble and the tears roll
unchecked down his whiskery cheeks. We knew it was time to pose the
question.
Mom knelt down by Roy’s chair and asked if he'd like to just let her stay.
He looked up at me and I nodded. His eyes cleared to the steel blue I
remembered from long ago and he pulled himself up straighter in the chair,
looked at my mother and told her that they couldn't afford a dog, especially
such a fine show dog. Then, sinking back down in his chair, he mumbled,
"We can't take care of ourselves Mother, how can we take care of a
dog?" Mom took his hand and said that we were giving Key-Too to them
and that it did seem she was a sensible puppy and they could manage her care if
he wanted her to stay. "Tay-Too", he corrected. He fell silent.
His eyes misted and we realized he was thinking of Duke. We all were.
When he finally looked up at me I could only smile and nod past my tears. Tay-Too, confused by the strange silence, snuggled closer to his lap and looked
up at him for reassurance.
We pretended not to notice his tears as he pulled her closer and muttered aloud,
asking her if she'd ever be as big or as smart as "old Duke".
When we waved goodbye, he was brushing her with mom's hairbrush....
The rest of the story is what breeding is all about. Key-Too or rather "Tay-Too",
never became a champion, she never had that wonderful litter. What she did
do was what every dog is born to do. She brought love and laughter into a
home that desperately needed both. She gave them security and protection.
And she gave a whole new lease on life to two lonely old people who needed her
more than they had ever realized.
Ma Bell loved us over the next few months.
Weekly, we heard amazing "progress reports".
Not the typical proud stories about what a lovely front the puppy has,
how much it weighs, or how well it did at training class. Oh no, Key-Too’s
reports that meant ever so much more. Three days after we left her, Roy
took his brand new puppy and his brand new pinbrush and the two of them went
into the backyard to groom. "Tired of your Mother's fussing about her
hairbrush and hair in the house" was Roy's comment on the phone. Not
only was it the first time in months he's been willing to talk to anyone on the
phone, it was the first time in nearly a year that he'd ventured out of the
house other than to be driven to the V.A.
By the end of the second week, he informed mom that he and Tay-Too were going
for a walk and demanded she unpack Duke's leash. Mom protested and rightly
so, for he was still terribly feeble and unsteady on his feet, and the puppy
wasn't leash trained. He ignored my mother’s warnings and the two of
them proudly walked two blocks that day. Mom called me in tears of joy.
She described how the puppy never fought the leash, how she watched from the
window as they slowly made their way down to the corner, Tay-Too walking ever so
carefully by Roy's side.
By the end of the week, the two of them had made it all the way to the 7-11
store five blocks away! They became such "regulars" that the
cashier no longer bothered to call mom to reassure her they had arrived.
The manager always had a treat ready for "Tay-Too" and a free cup of
coffee for Roy. People stopped in at the little store when they saw them
there. Neighbors stopped them on the street and Roy proudly told them she
was an Akita, a real show dog, a rare Japanese breed, and who knows what else he
told them in his new found pride and enthusiasm. Through the puppy, he
made new friends and never tired of telling them about the dog or "the Big
One, WW2." And you know, somehow they never tired of listening.
Everyone loved Roy and all that he stood for and I'd seen it before, the hero
worship grown men showed to the old veteran. Now it had become
"Captain Carter and Tay-Too". They were an item.
Oh there were problems. Key-Too dug immense holes in the back yard and Roy
fell in them. She left balls and toys scattered about the yard. And
Roy tripped over them. But within a few months, she was big enough and
understood enough to guide them around such obstacles and when he did fall, she
was instantly at his side, offering her strong back to him to pull himself up
by. Other than booster shots, her only trip to the vet was when she
attacked mom’s huge blooming cactus. It was unexpected expense but they
proudly managed. And mom said it was worth it for Roy not only went with
them to the vet, he insisted on driving on the way home. It was his first
time at the wheel in over two years and although mom was scared to death they
made it safely - and that certain bottle of pills which had prevented him
driving in the past sat untouched in the medicine chest from then on.
Key-Too’s favorite resting place blocked the narrow hallway but she learned
not to move a muscle when Roy carefully stepped over her. She learned how
to escape through the sagging back yard fence, but when she realized how
terribly it upset her people, she never did it again.
She became more than just an old man’s companion, she became his
nurse-therapist and guide dog. She seemed to understand how uncertain his
balance was and she watched him carefully at curbs, moving strongly close to his
leg and her powerful shoulders saved him some bad spills. She knew from
the beginning that she couldn't jump on either of them and she was infinitely
careful not to bump them, even as an exuberant puppy. She learned useful
little chores like getting the paper, fetching his slippers, taking the mail out
to the mailman who loved to just stop his little truck and toot at the Carter
residence. She guarded their sleep and protected their home. She
greeted the pastor with "reverence" and all their guests with respect.
But she barred the door with lips laid back and a deep snarl when strange men
knocked.
As Roy's condition improved, my mother's began to worsen. When she went on
oxygen, Key-Too suspiciously avoided the tank and hoses but elected to sleep in
mom’s bedroom. When she had the inevitable bad days when she couldn't
look after Roy, Key-Too did. When in turning over, mom pulled her back in
such a way that she couldn't move her legs and Roy was fast asleep and
couldn’t hear her cries, Key-Too barked at Roy until he awoke and went to help
my mother. When mom had to be hospitalized, Key-Too cried for her and
paced the floor, and then would go sit with her head on Roy's knee, putting her
own confusion aside and to try and comfort him. She learned to accept
what, from a dog's perspective, seemed like threatening actions of the visiting
nurse as she bent over my prone mother. She learned that when the nurse
caused my mother pain, she was not to interfere.
Well, no point in continuing this story except to say that the one thing Tay-Too
never understood was why the vet picked her up one day and took her away from
her beloved "Roy and Mother". She knew and trusted the family
friends she lived out the rest of her life with, but no, Tay-Too never
understood why....
O'BJ Key-Too was never a show dog. She was a fat, spayed pet. I
would gladly give up all our Best In Show winners in exchange for just one more
"pet" like "Tay-Too." Wouldn't you?
The Dog
Newspaper 1991,
Canine Chronicle June 1992,
Kennel Review Magazine 1993, ShowSight Magazine 1997
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